Wednesday, July 27, 2011
Saturday, June 18, 2011
Father and son daughter l 7 Lessons All Dads Should Teach
7 Lessons All Dads Should TeachYes, there will be a test at the end. It’s called life. Here’s how to make sure your kids ace it.
1) Words are Valuable
Speak up: Your kid is listening. In families with two working parents, fathers have a greater impact on their children’s language development by age 3 than mothers do, according to a study in the Journal of Applied Developmental Psychology. Provide a creative, dramatic play-by-play of the activities you’re engaged in and your surroundings. Use big words, even if they’re unfamiliar to your kid. Children learn a lot by context.
2) Tantrums Earn You Nothing
“When your anxiety visibly rises, you add fuel to the fire,” says Hal Edward Runkel, a family therapist and the author of ScreamFree Parenting. And if you simply hand over a piece of candy, you encourage more bad behavior. Instead, when your kid starts shouting, be calm and attentive. Don’t ignore it. This signals that you will not be rattled and the child won’t win—ever. It may not work for the first tantrum, warns Runkel, but it’s magic by the fifth.
3) Competition Leads to Confidence
Children as young as 4 start to compete with their parents—sprinting to the car, wrestling on the sofa, stuff like that. Roll with it. Let them win a lot, and then slowly ramp it up so they have to work harder for their victories. “It’s a way for kids to develop a sense of strength and to let them test their muscles,” says Justin Richardson, M.D., who teaches psychiatry at Columbia University. They’ll start to walk more confidently and be less of a mark for bullies.
4) Quitting is Hard
When his son wanted to quit baseball at age 8, Runkel said to him, “Sure, but you have to tell your teammates and coach.” The boy couldn’t do it. He’s played for 7 years since. Show kids the pain of quitting, and they won’t make those kind of decisions lightly, Runkel says. “If your kid says a school project is too hard and that he wants to give up, that’s okay,” says Runkel. “But say, ‘Tell your teacher you’re quitting and that you’ll take whatever grade is appropriate.’ Trust me, he’ll stick it out.”
5) Other People’s Feelings Matter
It’s easier to connect with others if you understand their perspective, so nurture that instinct in your child. Start with the child’s own feelings. “Say, ‘Man, it must be hard being 8 years old. What’s the hardest part?‘ ” suggests Runkel. Then mention people your kid knows who are having a hard time—say, a friend whose dad lost his job. Ask what he thinks it’s like for that friend. “They won’t always have an answer, but they’re thinking about it,” Runkel says.
6) Fights Can Be Resolved
Unless one kid is dangling the other out the window, don’t say a word. “As soon as you become involved, they no longer care about a solution. They’ll only try drafting you to their side,” says child psychologist Anthony Wolf, Ph.D., the author of Mom, Jason’s Breathing on Me! The Solution to Sibling Bickering. If they pester you, say your solution will be bad for both of them. They’ll learn that pleading is fruitless. More important, they’ll learn quickly to compromise.
7) Independence is Earned
When your kids ask to stay later at a friend’s house, ask what time would work for them. Then ask why. If you don’t hear a good answer, it’s okay to say no. If you do, try it, says Pennsylvania-based psychologist Janet Edgette, Psy.D. When parents give children freedom and responsibility, studies show, the children develop stronger morals more quickly.
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We all want to raise our little ones to be polite and well behaved, and learning those lessons starts at home. It's never too early to teach your little ones basic manners! Here are eight of the most important manners you should try to teach your little ones before they go to school. They won't remember them all, or get them right every time, but patience and perseverance should get you through:
1. Always say please and thank you.
Whether they're activities as small as giving your little one a snack, or them asking if they can play in the garden, always reinforce the importance of saying please and thank you. No matter how young your children are, you can't start enforcing this rule too early!
2. Table manners
When your tiny tots are just learning to eat at the table, start teaching them the manners you'd like them to have for the rest of their lives! Rules like not eating with their mouths open, or not putting their elbows on the table, are good life lessons for your children to learn as soon as possible.
3. Play dates
When you're little ones go on play dates, or to birthday parties, remind them to thank their friends parents for having them over. If you aren't going to be attending the play date or event with your little one, ensure your little ones know they should treat their friends parents (and all grown-ups) with the same respect they treat you.
4. Birthday party etiquette
It's often said that kids go wild at birthday parties - all the sweet snacks and fun can make little ones get excited, and sometimes forget their manners. But no matter how excited your little one is on their birthday, there are some manners they shouldn't forget: to open their presents thoughtfully (not ripping off the paper, or tossing the present to one side as soon as they've seen it) and to say thank you for every gift, and to every attendee.
5. Mind the language
There will come a moment every parent dreads: the moment your little one swears. And then finds it funny! The worst thing you can do in this scenario is laugh. Let them know that you already know that word, you think it's unpleasant, not funny, and ask your little one not to use it again!
6. Don't be mean
Kids tease each other, and they find it funny. But this can sometimes go a step too far and lead to bullying. Make sure your little ones don't call others mean names, and don't make fun of anyone for any reason. Ganging up on someone else is cruel, not clever.
7. Excuse me!
Once your little ones have mastered saying please and thank you, teach them to say excuse me. It's the polite thing to say when you have to interrupt someone, or bump into somebody.
8. TMI!
There are some things that are too much information, and that your little ones shouldn't talk about in public! These include genitals, poo, nose picking, and all the other gory things that amuse kids!
Thursday, March 31, 2011
Seven ways sex is good for your health
In fact, sex can benefit your health in many ways. Here are seven reasons to give and get a little love – not just this special day, but any time.
Good for the heart
Sex is good for your heart. Like any physical exertion, sex is a form of cardio-exercise, which gets your heart pumping faster and helps it stay in shape. What's more, studies have shown that men who have sex two or more times per week cut their risk of a fatal heart attack by half.
Helps you lose weight
Like any form of exercise, sex helps you lose weight. Having sex for 30 minutes can burn off 85 calories. To put that in perspective: 15 minutes on the treadmill could burn up to 200 calories; 42 of these half-hour sessions, then, could shave a pound off your weight.
Boosts your immune system
While it's possible to contract a wide range of diseases, both from sex and from simple contact with others, safe sex between healthy partners can make you better equipped to fight illness.
Those who have sex once or twice a week have been shown to have higher levels of immunoglobulin A or IgA, an antibody which helps protect you from respiratory diseases like the cold and flu.
Don’t go overboard, though – in studies, those who had sex three or more times a week had the lowest levels of antibodies.
Reduces the risk of prostate cancer
For younger men, sex reduces the risk of prostate cancer. Researchers have found that men in their 20s who had five or more ejaculations per week were one third less likely to develop the cancer in later life. Although they found no such correlation for older men, you could try to prove them wrong.
Relieves stress
There's a medical explanation for the mood boost sex gives you. The brain releases endorphins during and after sex, and these neurotransmitters create a feeling of euphoria while masking the negative effects of stress.
Researchers have also found that sex lowers your blood pressure, which is good for your health and allows you to better keep your cool in stressful situations.
It relieves pain
Endorphins and lower blood pressure also mean that sex relieves pain. Endorphins are released during sex because of the heightened levels of the hormone oxytocin in your body. This has been known to alleviate arthritic and menstrual pain, among other things. Lower blood pressure can also help relieve migraines.
It helps you sleep
In addition to relieving stress and pain, the oxytocin generated during sex helps you sleep better. Sex relaxes you, promoting deeper, more restful sleep. What more do you need?
Monday, March 28, 2011
How to Change My Wife's Mind About a Divorce
If you and your wife have been experiencing significant problems in your marriage, and she has expressed her desire for a divorce, you are likely dealing with a number of emotions. However, if you believe that your marriage can be saved and you want your wife to see this, there are some things that will possibly convince her to give the relationship another try.
Instructions
1.Pay attention to the things your wife says she is missing in the marriage. Write them down, so you can remember and review them. Ask her if there are things you can do to remedy the problems she sees in your marriage at this point. For instance, if she needs you to be more attentive, ask for details on how you can make this happen, for example,"Do you want me to take care of the kids when I see that you're stressed?"
2.Start doing the things that your wife has been telling you she needs you to do. If she's been pleading with you to be more romantic, bring flowers home for no reason or hire a babysitter and plan a romantic evening for just the two of you. Don't get discouraged or angry with your wife if she doesn't respond to your gestures the way you would like right away. Show her that you have patience and are understanding of her feelings.
3.Take the initiative to do things that may help to repair your marriage. Make the call to the marriage counselor and set up an appointment. Arrange for you and your wife to go on a marriage retreat without asking her to make any of the trip plans.
4.Communicate with your partner often -- about things that don't concern your obligations to one another or your children. For instance, send her an email telling her that you miss her and sincerely hope that the marriage can be reconciled or leave her a note that describes the personality traits that you admire about her. Tell your wife how you feel about the problems in the marriage as well, so the two of you can get a better understanding of what it will take to make things better.
how to divorce my wife
That's it. You've come to the end of your patience with your marriage and it's time to tell your wife you want a divorce. How do you tell the other half you want to be whole again? To tell your wife you want a divorce takes courage and tact.
Instructions
* Be absolutely sure you want a divorce. Exhaust all relationship counseling options.
* Get legal counsel before you tell your spouse. Get the paperwork started.
* Find a private place where you can tell her. Make sure the kids are with a competent caretaker.
* Be clear and say "I want a divorce," not "We need some time."
* Don't back down from your position. You should have done all of your thinking about this matter ahead of time. If your wife asks for more time or another chance, the likely outcome is going to be you repeating your desire for a divorce after you've burned some more of your time in the marriage.
* Maintain a civil tone of voice. Avoid gloating and laying blame. Try to stay civil.
* Tell her that you both need to be there for the children. While you won't be lovers anymore, you will always be parents to those kids. You must keep a civil relationship and not put them in the middle.
* Respect the decision you made once upon a time to care enough about this person to tie your fortune and emotions to hers. You owe it to yourself and your wife.
Saturday, March 26, 2011
Top 10 habits of women that annoy men the most
Never ordering a dessert, then eating mine
Ooh no, I'm full. I couldn't possibly eat any pudding, I'm stuffed," she says. And when my treacle pudding arrives she would have one spoon after another and finish the whole thing.
Failing to grasp that she moults
Every now and then her hair would block the shower plughole for which she would say, "That's not necessarily mine!"
Never packing enough books, or even any books, for a holiday
He'll make a huge fuss about capsule wardrobes but would never pack a book. Just a couple of magazines for the plane, which she leafs through in four minutes after which she grabs the fat thriller you've been looking forward to reading for months. She would hog it for a week, then leaves it on a boat when she's finished and says: "It was rubbish anyway."
Refusing to offer an opinion when asked for one
Which is so very different from not having an opinion. So if we're thinking of going out for dinner, for example, and you say: "What do you fancy, Chinese? Italian? A nice bit of sushi?"
She'll say: "I don't mind, whatever you feel like."
And when you book an Italian restaurant, she would say, "You know perfectly well that I HATE Italian food."
Constantly saying, "The thing that women find most attractive in a man is a sense of humor"
Which just isn't true. What women find attractive is tall, handsome, rich. That is what women find attractive. And that is all.
Giving up in the middle of every game
Chess or cribbage or tennis or croquet or absolutely anything - it happens the moment they go slightly behind and no longer look like winning.
Never being satisfied with a hotel room
When you arrive at your hotel after a long journey and flop yourself down on the bed, she'll stand in the middle of the room with her hands on her hips and say: "Well, this just won't do, it's supposed to have a view!" Then insist on seeing every single other room in the hotel, before actually deciding that the first room was fine, after all.
Thinking animals have feelings
I feel so sorry for that puppy, it looked so sad, it really wanted us to take it home." No, it's a dog. It does not feel sadness. It feels only hunger and the need to foul the pavement outside my house. It does not feel sad, or rejected, or worthless or unwanted.
Always leaving some awful pop music station on top volume in the car when she was the last one to drive it
So that when you get in on a cold morning to go to work, and switch the radio on expecting to hear the mellifluous mutterings of the Today programme, it instead blasts into shrieking life with some frightful oik bellowing rage into a voice-distorter over the sound of a huge drum kit being kicked down a hill by donkeys.
Making a huge fuss about how important it is that women players get the same Wimbledon prize money as male playersut then, when the tournament starts, she's only interested in watching the men, because they're sexy and the tennis is exciting, and doesn't watch even a second of the ladies, because it's boring and they grunt too much.
Saturday, March 19, 2011
Male Vs Female boy vs girl man vs woman
All men descended from tribe which knows only two colors
SOCIAL TOOLS SUCH as Facebook are actually a secret plan by women to take over the world. This was one of the more intriguing among the many interesting responses I received (thank you, everyone) to yesterday’s rant about joining Facebook.
The real reason why Facebook generates strange ungrammatical terminology such as “Jackie Jones is enjoying themself at the pool” is to cover the fact that two out of three Facebook members are female, I hear from someone who signs himself Gorilla Guerilla.
This is something worth investigating for a future newspaper column or broadcast slot. Anyone good at this sort of thing, feel free to join in.
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On a related subject, male and female brains have different components, it was revealed last week in a study led by Canadian scientist Dr Maya Saleh. Men have more grey matter (for data processing) and women more white matter (for words and social interaction—that is Facebook).
I first realized men and women thought differently when I was a teenager driving in a car with a young woman doing the map reading.
“You’re holding the map upside down,” I said.
She replied: “I know. That’s because we’re driving upside down.”
There’s no answer to that.
Later, I asked her what make of car her father drove.
“A blue one,” she replied.
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The report confirmed long-held theories that men are better with numbers and women with words and colors. It’s SO true. I’ve suffered my whole life from a tragic inability to have an opinion on the color of curtains. Once a year, my wife checks my condition by asking: “Are you yet able to have an opinion on whether satin-finish curtains in pale ecru are preferable to cotton-lined drapes in dark muffin?” Every year, she receives nothing but a panicked stare in response, and knows my condition has not improved.
Fortunately, it is not life-threatening, nor is it uncommon. In fact, it is more or less de rigueur for heterosexual males. It strikes me that this test could be used to check people’s sexuality at an early age. Any boy who shows an interest in the hue of curtains is unlikely to grow up to have the classic characteristics of the Asian male, that is, to be the hopelessly unredeemable, sexist, chauvinist thug that their loving fathers desperately want them to be.
I know that if my son ever expresses an opinion on curtain tones, I will immediately enroll him in the local equivalent of the US Navy Seals, so he can learn useful manly skills, such as how to conduct covert assassination operations. Bizarrely, this information is NOT included on ANY school curriculum, a tragic consequence of the fact that schools are dominated by female decision-makers. Fortunately, the male-dominated computer games industry is working to make up this astonishing shortfall in our children’s education.
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Now I’m no anthropologist but I have long suspected that all heterosexual men are descended from a tribe in New Guinea. In their wonderfully simple language, called Dan, there are only two colors: mili, which means “darkish”, and mola, which means “lightish”. This is so simple that Dan-speaking men would have no problems generating opinions about the color of curtains, although this is not really a major issue for them, as jungle huts have no windows, and there’s a shortage of IKEA shops in the rain forest, anyway.
Meanwhile, I suspect that all women of my acquaintance have been descended from the Machiguenga tribe of Peru. In their language the number “tobaiti” means “any number bigger than four”.
Their counting system goes:
One
Two
Three
Four
tobaiti.
That’s it: the whole thing.
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One can imagine how easy a Machiguengan maths test would be.
Q: What’s five and five?
A: Er, is it tobaiti?
Q: Correct. What’s the population of China?
A: Hmm, I would say, about tobaiti.
Q: Right again. How many people in your family?
A: Um, tobaiti-ish?
I’ll stop here and tell my wife to buy curtains in a nice shade of mola. She’ll be impressed.
The Male vs. the Female Brain How Male and Female Brains Differ
Have you ever wondered why you and your partner can walk away from a conversation with completely different understandings of what was discussed? Now there's proof that neither one of you is crazy -- you're just different! New scientific research has found subtle differences between the brains of men and women.
The studies, which include both physical imaging and psychological research, are leading to greater understanding of the differences between the sexes. While it's not completely clear how the structural differences in male and female brains affect their function, scientists theorize that the most likely impact is upon the way men and women process information.
One difference between men and women's brains is size. Men's brains on average are 10 percent bigger than women's and have 4 percent more cells. But before all you men claim superiority for having a bigger brain, you'll need to know that women's brains contain more nerve cells and cellular connections, which allows their smaller, more compact brains to be more efficient and effective. Men's brains tend to perform tasks predominantly with the left-side, which is the logical/rational side of the brain. Women, on the other hand, use both sides of their brains because a woman's brain has a larger corpus callosum, which means women can transfer data between the right and left hemispheres faster than men.
While this does not mean that women are more likely to be in their "right mind," it does illuminate why Martians tend to approach communication more often with a task-oriented "let's fix the problem" state of mind, while Venusians tend to be more creative and aware of feelings in their communication style. Martians performed better on tests requiring mental rotation, which is thought to indicate an innate sense of direction. Women, though, can rely on their stronger memory skills to help them find and remember landmarks.
Not to mention that women do not consider it a diminishment of their femininity to stop at a gas station and ask for directions when lost! However, Venusians' memory skills can be a double-edged sword, as they are more inclined to remember everything a Martian does -- especially when it comes to irritating or hurtful behavior.
So the next time you marvel at your partner's ability to remind you again of something problematic you did months ago, know that she's not picking on you; it's just still on her mind! The other structural difference in men and women's brains is the limbic size, which controls bonding and nesting instincts. Females, on average, have larger deep limbic systems than males.
This is why Venusians tend to be more in touch with their feelings and are better able to express them than men. The larger deep limbic system also increases a Venusian's ability to connect and bond with others. The downside of this is that women are more susceptible to depression, not only because of the larger limbic system, but also because they produce less serotonin than men. Although this could be a factor in the statistic that women attempt suicide three times more often than men, men are three times more likely to be successful at such an attempt.
One reason is that men tend to choose more violent and lethal methods, but another reason is that their smaller, deep limbic system contributes to the fact that men are generally less connected to others compared to women.
There are many ramifications to these new findings, from a better understanding of differences to gender-specific medical diagnoses and treatments. At the very least, we can gain a better appreciation for the unique strengths and qualities these subtle brain differences cause. The more men and women understand about our differences, the easier it is to understand each other!
Friday, March 18, 2011
how to impress wife
Top 10 Ways How to Impress Wife The relationship between a husband and wife is a very sensitive affair. It has to be based on mutual trust, love and care as well understanding. Much effort goes into maintaining the relationship. Both the husband and wife have to make that extra effort to show their love for each other. Any kind of neglect on each other’s part could lead to a termination of the relationship or end up as relationship with no sparks. A husband needs the support of his wife to carry on with his professional life and also to meet his emotional and physical needs. He cannot take his partner for granted and has to ensure that she is happy being married to him. In other words, he has to impress upon his wife to keep himself in her good books. What all he needs to do to impress upon her?
* Wine and dine with her frequently – A husband needs to spend time with his wife more. He may be busy with his official work, but yet he needs to take time off and take her out for dinner. A romantic candle dinner would keep the love flame alive.
* Take interest in her hobbies – A wife likes it when her husband shows keen interest in how she spends her time at home. The husband needs to show interest in her hobbies and if possible participate in them.
* Spend time with the children – A wife after all has devoted her precious time in the upbringing of the children. She naturally would like it if her husband also took time off and spent it with the children. The husband needs to make her feel that he is also shouldering the responsibility of bringing up the children.
* Show interest in her friends – A wife spends her free time with her friends. She would like it if her husband was also interested in her association with her friends. He is expected to respect her friends and treat them well. * Socializing – A husband needs to take his wife to social get-togethers and not make her feel alienated by leaving her at home. Even at official gatherings, he can take his wife along with him.
* Buy gifts – Buying the appropriate gift for the wife requires much time and effort, which the husband should not overlook. A birthday gift, a marriage anniversary surprise party can do wonders to make a wife come closer to the husband.
* Respect her family members – A wife cares about her family, be it her brother, sister or parents. A husband needs to be careful to avoid hurting her feelings by insulting any of her family members.
* Go on holiday – It is important for the husband to spend his precious moments with his wife. A summer trip to the Bahamas or Hawaii sounds very exciting. A wife will be thrilled to spend time with her children and husband, away from her daily chores.
* Help her with the daily chores – despite his pressures at work, it would be nice if the husband took some time out and helped his wife with her daily chores in the house. The wife may feel bored doing them. She would appreciate the gesture extended by her husband as a thought of love and affection for her.
* Not forgetting the marriage anniversary date – A husband who remembers his marriage anniversary date is well received by a wife. After all, she would feel that he is still full of same loving concern for her as he was on her first date with him. A husband who cares for the feelings of his wife will make a success of his marriage. By neglecting her, he would either live in a miserable relationship or end up losing her. A conscious effort needs to be made to impress upon her to strengthen the marital bonds.
How to Impress a Girl
Everyone can name someone who's nice, pretty, smart, funny, etc. Want to impress that certain girl? Here's what to do and what not to do.
1. Be well-groomed. This is essential if you are even going to approach an attractive girl. Brush your hair, shower, wash your face, brush your teeth, use deodorant and maybe even a little cologne, and apply acne medicine daily (if you have a problem with your skin). Don't wear your pants off your butt, often called "sagging": it's not that attractive to the majority of girls. Wear clean, attractive clothes that fit. (If in doubt, get an older sister or close female friend to help you in this department.) Don't wear skin tight clothes, but don't wear clothes that are too baggy either. Girls hate that.
2. Have a great attitude. Be fun to hang around with, easy to laugh with, and be outgoing. Just don't be full of yourself. A girl may like an overly cocky guy at first, but eventually, she will find it selfish. Don't try to impress everyone: girls like humble guys. At the same time, a sense of humor is always good. Girls love when guys can make them laugh.
3. Show respect. If you respect everyone and give them their space, they'll all respect you. With girls, it works even better. If they see you respecting everyone, and not getting pushed around while you're at it, they will be reassured that you will treat them right. Be kind to all.
4. Have nice conversations. Try to aim for you both to be speaking half of the time, but make sure that you are saying something worthwhile. It's not attractive when only one person talks endlessly or when they say bad words. Another thing to watch for is her attention. If she isn't paying complete attention, do not repeat yourself several times. This makes girls feel you are desperate, and usually annoying.
5 Show interest in her. Let her talk. The #1 mistake when talking to a girl is focusing on yourself. Girls are way more comfortable when they talk about common interests. Ask about their interests, hobbies, favorite books, music, etc. If she asks you a question, answer it in a few, short sentences and then redirect the question back at her. This engages her in the conversation. When in doubt, compliment her like your hair looks nice today. Even if a girl does not like you yet, complimenting her will make her feel good about herself and think positively about you. However, if she keeps redirecting the conversation back to you, talk about yourself, otherwise it seems like you don't really want to be talking to her.6. Try flirting! Don't be obsessive! If you both make eye contact, do not be the one to look away, but do not stare for too long. When you both make eye contact, just give a slight smile. Touch her arm or shoulder for a few seconds. Physical contact is a great way to show you're interested. If she seems uncomfortable, do not do it again. * In general, you should leave physical contact until you both get to know each other more, especially if she's shy. Touches, even to areas that aren't considered taboo (the arms, hands, shoulders, lower legs) may be interpreted as sexual cues if done at too early a stage in the relationship. She may think you're just trying to have a casual sexual relationship, which will usually scare away most girls. Girls will generally break the touch barrier themselves when they're ready.
7. She may look away and she might blush a little. Be careful though; you don't want to stare her down. A good move is to look away, and if she likes you she will shoot you glances. Watch for that. And be courteous. Open doors. Do kind things, girls love that.
8 Respect her friends and their ideas and opinions. Always speak highly of her and never talk trash about her. It will damage her reputation and yours. Hopefully then it will work both ways - she will be tolerant of your friends. Be careful not to compliment her friends too much, however. Example: You may say "Your friends seem cool. We should hang out with them and my friends some time, I think they'd get along". You may not say "Sally is so hot. She has the nicest eyes". You may think getting her jealous is a good idea, but it just makes them angry and hurt. Doing this could also sow discord in her friendships, you may actually create bad feelings between her and her friend(s), so make it very clear that you're interested in her only, and that you're merely acquaintances with her friends.
9 Have your friends be nice to her It's a fantastic thing when your friends don't make a total fool of you. Warn them ahead of time and avoid topics pertaining to embarrassing moments of your past or awkward jokes that make very little sense. Don't introduce her to your friends right away though. You want her to like you, not start dating one of your buddies. If your friends like to embarrass you, try to avoid them altogether.
10 Be polite to her parents. Be kind to everyone, especially them. Don't be too over-the-top charming with the parents, however, or they'll think that you have something to hide.Be willing make sure that you and her father get along as he will be looking out for his daughter.
11 Don't criticize her. Unless she asks for constructive criticism. And even then she probably wants you to compliment her.
12 Be romantic, but not over the top. If you've been dating for a while you may attempt a grand romantic gesture, otherwise, you'll look like a stalker. It's also okay to be a little cheesy, like giving her a bouquet of roses and a loving poem. It may sound like a bad idea, but girls will find it thoughtful if it came from your heart. A better idea than being cheesy is to really LISTEN to her and remember things she likes. Then take her somewhere she's mentioned wanting to go, or buy her the books she's been wanting and hide a little note inside. Flowers and candy are really cliche and don't really mean much since anyone can just buy someone flowers. Showing you've been listening to her wants and needs goes a LOT farther than roses!!
13 Start talking to her casually. If you don't know her, make friendly conversation. Ask for the time, and/or compliment her watch. Avoid throwing too many compliments about clothes or shoes around: that might make women think that you are homosexual as many gay men are fashion-forward.
14 Do not play "hard to get". Sure, you'll get their attention for a day or two then after a while, the girl will end up frustrated, and she'll think you don't find interest in her anymore. * At the same time, don't be an "easy catch". Girls will generally lose interest in guys who just fall into the palms of their hands. You should still present a challenge to win over, such as not constantly trying to talk to her whenever she's in your presence, don't be a "goody two-shoes" all of the time(the perfect mannered, completely friendly, always happy kind of guy), and in general try to give off an attitude like you're interested, but not completely devoted (make it obvious that you're still hanging out with friends, doing personal hobbies, etc). Devotion comes when you're actually in a relationship, before that you're just flirting. At the same time, never show any special interest in another girl. All you'll succeed in doing is either make her think you're not interested in a serious relationship (or worse, she may think you're just trying to "hook up" with any possible girl), or you'll hurt her feelings.
15. Don't get obsessed with her. If she's one of your prospective first romances, it's hard not to spend every waking moment thinking about her. Not only will this drive you insane, but it will make the possible rejection devastating. Continue with your normal hobbies and entertainment and hang out with your normal friends. Don't bother trying to push her completely from your mind, as you're in love, there's no on/off switch. Whenever you start thinking excessively about her, just find something to do, such as reading, watching a movie, play some video games, etc.presence, or make jokes of a sexual nature unless she starts doing so. Also, don't discuss anything gross or inappropriate. She'll get grossed out.
16. Hum in her presence. She might think of you whenever she hears that song. And she'll probably be impressed by your good taste in music. Some girls have actually dumped guys or stopped liking guys when they insulted the music they like. So, it's OK not to like her music, but don't be insulting her favorite singer(s) or band(s)! Try to figure out what music you BOTH like.
17. Start an inside joke with her! She will feel included and become closer to you. It also gives you an easy-to-come-up-with conversation starter. Try not to overuse it and kill the joke.
18. End later meetings with a hug, or plans to meet some other time, if you can. Make sure to tell her that you enjoyed her company.
19. Tell her that you "like her" frequently. Ask her out.
20. Touch her occasionally, like on the shoulder or hand. Be sure do not touch her private parts, however.
21. Opposites attract. Be a courageous gentleman, not coy like a lady might be. Stand up for her if something is wrong.
22. Show your funny side. A lot of women look for sense of humor in a partner. You should however be mindful of their reactions to your jokes and avoid offensive humor. Unless they like that. Find out if she likes comedy. If she watches Comedy Central or other readily-accessible comedy, find out her favorite comedian or favorite impression and try something along the same lines for her.
23. Make her feel good. This is a really good thing that impresses girls. They love it when you let them know you care for them. If she's sad, just simply put your arm around her neck. Make her happy as much as you can. Flirt with her, hold her hand it will make her feel special.
24. Don't ever make fun of your friends around her. If you do, it might make her think that you're a jerk. When someone makes fun of other people, it makes a woman wonder what they might be saying about HER when she's not around!
25. Be honest. Do something creative, something extraordinary or something that others never do. That creates a question mark for the girl about you, and it also makes you interesting.
26. Be open. Don't share too many secrets with her. Sprinkle a little and don't irritate her asking repeated questions. Always keep your face glowing and charming. 27. Don't ignore her. Don't ever ignore her messages such as through phone calls, text messages or Facebook. Make her feel like you always have time for her.
28. Tease her. Believe it or not, most girls liked to be teased. It can be about something she said or whatever. Just make sure you don't overdo it and always use humor, you don't want to come off as a jerk.
